You’ve been dating your boyfriend for a while and finally decide to go all the way and get engaged. What should you do to make him the happiest man alive and fulfill his dream of being married to you? How about losing some weight first, so he can look and feel like a prince on your wedding day? Is your relationship worth risking your health over? We spoke with Dr. Laura Berman, a family physician and the author of Ask Dr. Berman, to get some insider knowledge on how to get your boyfriend to lose weight without hurting his feelings.
Be Careful What You Wish For
You may think that getting your boyfriend to lose weight is a good idea, but you need to be careful what you wish for. If he starts losing weight because you made him, then you’re going to have to deal with a pretty dissatisfied boyfriend on your hands. Think about what you’re doing and if this is the type of person you want to be dating. If you want to pursue this route, you need to be ready to support his weight loss and be understanding of his changes in behavior.
So you’ve convinced your boyfriend to go on a diet and lose some weight. You’re both on a strict regimen and determined to make each other fit for your big day, but before you know it, your engagement is called off. What happened?
You Broke Up With Him. Period.
You’re a nice person and you want to make him happy. So you decided to go for his weight loss, even though you knew it could lead to some complications. But you also knew that he’s been wanting this his whole life. Now that you’ve made him happy, you feel horrible and decide to break up with him. Unhappy endings like this can happen when you give in to your boyfriend’s wish to lose weight. You need to understand what went wrong and why this happened. Maybe you were both using the weight loss as a way to find your true feelings for each other. Your feelings may have gotten hurt and that’s what caused the break up. You need to be careful about what you wish for; sometimes you get what you want, but you don’t always like what you get.
When you make your boyfriend a priority and decide to pursue his weight loss, you’re entering a realm that can be dangerous. You need to be sure that this is something he really wants, and wants to do for the right reasons. If this is the type of person you want to be dating, then be prepared to support him during his weight loss journey. Don’t rush it, and make sure that he’s doing it for the right reasons. He may not be ready to accept your help, but at least you can be there for him when he needs you. This is what you should do if you want to make your boyfriend happy.
Your Boyfriend Has A Bad Habit
So you thought getting your boyfriend to lose weight would make him happy, but it turns out he has a bad habit that makes him less happy than he appears. If you know anything about him, then you know that this is not a good trait to have. Maybe he’s a chronic liar or a cheat. Maybe he doesn’t take anything seriously and thinks all his relationships are a goof. Maybe he’s a bit of a perfectionist who can’t live without getting everything right. These are all bad habits that make him less of a good guy and more of a danger to yourself and your relationship. You don’t want to be with a man that you know doesn’t deserve you, but because he has a bad habit, you don’t feel comfortable saying no and breaking up with him. He’s like a damaged good, you feel bad for giving in to him, but you can’t help but feel attracted to him as well.
It would be best for yourself and your relationship if you didn’t get involved with someone with these bad habits. They may not be obvious, but there will be signs that you should look out for. If you see he has issues with dishonesty, then it may be best to find a man who is honest and cares about you enough not to mess with your heart. If you discover he has issues with commitment, then he may not be ready to be a husband, let alone a boyfriend. These kinds of men can be a pain in the ass to deal with, especially if you’re still young and want to have kids one day. Save yourself for someone who knows what he’s doing and can commit to you wholeheartedly.
Take Your Time
You’re with a man who claims to love you and is dedicated to making you happy. So you decide to go on a diet with him and lose some weight. After months of working hard together, you drop a few pounds and your boyfriend is ecstatic. He continues to lose weight and manages to get down to a healthy weight range. He finally feels comfortable enough to show off his newly-found body and you’re over the moon. He gets down on one knee and proposes. You say yes, and a few months later, you get married. Everything you dreamed of and worked so hard for comes true.
Unfortunately, everything doesn’t always work out the way you plan. Right after the wedding, you discover that he has a secret addiction. He admits that he’s been sneaking off to the casino and placing bets under the table. So you end up having to file for divorce, even though you both try to keep it civil. It’s not easy being a wife or a girlfriend to someone with an addiction, but at least you both tried. It’s something you need to work through and be grateful for, even if it did end your engagement and marriage fairly quickly.
Don’t Go For The Thinnest Person Available
Now is not the time to go for the thin person available. You want to go for the person you deserve, not someone who fits into your idea of perfect. You’re better than that and so is he. You need to find a man that makes you feel like a goddess, not a size two. Remember, you’re both on a journey, and this is something you want to work through together. You’re not here to compete with each other, but to support and encourage each other. What you need is a man that makes you feel like a woman, not a size two. So, don’t be afraid to get a bit chubby, as long as you both feel good about yourselves.
Try New Things
You’re both adults and you decided to get a diet and lose some weight. So you make a pact to work together and support each other. You decide to go for a bike ride after your workout and while you’re pedaling, you feel a pleasant sensation in your stomach. You have a good laugh and decide to keep doing what you’re doing. You want to see what else is out there and are open to new experiences. This is the type of man you should marry. He’ll be your partner in crime and help you explore new places, eat new foods, and try new things. That’s what makes him a good husband material. You’ll have someone who is happy to participate in your adventures and make your life more exciting. It’s not about looking perfect, it’s about feeling perfect and living life to the fullest. So, don’t be afraid to try new things and experience new things with your boyfriend. It’s what makes you both such attractive partners.
You’re Going Down The Rabbit Hole
So far, this was an informative article, but now it’s time to put what you’ve learned into practice. You need to figure out how to get your boyfriend to lose weight without breaking his heart. It can be hard to find someone who cares about you as much as he should and wants to make you happy. Once you do, you’ll have to be prepared to make sacrifices for the person you love. It may be hard to believe, but sometimes it takes a bit of effort to make an honest man out of an ugly duckling. You’re both adults and you made a pact to lose weight together. So, you decide to go for a bike ride after your workout. You get pedaling and feel a pleasant sensation in your stomach. You have a good laugh and decide to keep doing what you’re doing. You want to see what else is out there and are open to new experiences. This is the type of man you should marry. He’ll be your partner in crime and help you explore new places, eat new foods, and try new things. That’s what makes him a good husband material. You’ll have someone who is happy to participate in your adventures and make your life more exciting. It’s not about looking perfect, it’s about feeling perfect and living life to the fullest. So, don’t be afraid to try new things and experience new things with your boyfriend. It’s what makes you both such attractive partners.